Have you ever visited a close friend’s house and noticed that her cat is very disdainful of you? If the cat of someone you love, that you see often, pretends that you do not exist or even emits an aura of hatred towards you, it is very easy to settle the matter by saying that “that’s how cats are” or they just don’t like you…
However, this whole face that cats have is rude or very independent is actually part of their behavior, like a disguise, which deep down they want to remove. But to achieve this, it is necessary to establish with them a communication that gives them confidence and that is understandable in their behavior.
The cats came first all territories and hunters. Whenever you have a problem with them, remember these two variables, because they mark their behavior from top to bottom and condition all their actions. Being territorial means that he will give you access to his space, because for him the house he lives in is his.
How to socialize with a cat
He saw himself as the only one who could give permission to enter and enjoy the security of the house. Thus, if the cat in question does not validate you properly, it will not accept you in its home, it will continue to contradict you by avoiding you or showing disagreement.
On the other hand, as a good hunter, he does not like the approaches of strangers, because if you are not in his circle of trust, a threat, he can be the hunted hunter, and this is at best case. scenario: to hunt you, because the victim, by definition, is a stranger to the family.
- Advice from the master: relax
Animals have a sixth sense to sense when a person is stressed, and especially when that stress is on them. Dogs and cats are very observant, because they are programmed to analyze the behavior of their pack and their prey in order to survive and attack. Every move you make, your tone of voice and your attitude are taken into account. Yes, this kitty is a reality machine that is completely connected to your actions. But don’t worry, it’s just a cat.
The main advice for establishing a good relationship with a cat is to relax and do nothing, not because it can do wonders, but because your approach to the animal can be a sign of harassment. Do not force the cat, do not try to stroke or hug it if you are not yet part of its trust.
Giving affection to an animal designed for hunting is tantamount to demeaning it and belittling it, which destroys its territory and angers it. just be humble in his space (because he understands that you are in “his” space), do not touch his things, do not establish special eye contact with him.
He then becomes curious. In fact, if you don’t listen to him, he wants to know more about you. And this, if you are sitting quietly on the sofa, chatting, reading a book, working on your computer or watching television, the time will come when he will come to you.
Before the cat approaches you, takes a good look, gets to know you, and starts thinking about letting you be a part of the household. Unfortunately for cats, there aren’t many fun things to do around the house. So we know it’s only a matter of time before they come to you, because there is probably nothing better to do.
It has been studied scientifically, the University of Zurich conducted research on cat behavior that determined that the less attention we pay to a cat, the more interest it generates, even to its reference master, a casual acquaintance or an intruder. However, in the case of people who are not part of the household, the cat must first go through a “triage” phase and determine if you are a threat, and if you are worthy of its approval.
When the cat approaches you, you will notice that it “dances” around you and puts its paws on you. It tests your behavior. If you run away: you are a victim. If you withdraw in anger, you are not worthy of his acceptance.
And if you stay stronger or less strong, and you touch him a little: you can start to be friends. You don’t need to give him big hugs or hugs, not yet, but a “declaration of intent”, letting him know that you can take care of him, that you are at his disposal to recognize his importance in the world . . He will start secreting hormones about you.
When a cat lands on someone, especially if it’s on their head, what they’re doing is marking the other’s body with their hormones, giving them permission to become part of their environment. It’s about “colonizing” another being, because he says, as long as you don’t have a hormonal label, you’re not part of the family.
The best thing that can happen to you is that the cat licks you or rubs your legs, or puts its face close to your body, because it means that it now considers you a friend, and from this point, the “rejection” You thought he was there for you will start to become a thing of the past.