Heartbreak is characterized by a intense sadness over the end of a sentimental relationship. Depending on the investment made by the couple and the attachment made, the intensity of the suffering varies. And sometimes, the discomfort is such that it can lead to depression, even other health conditions.
Alma is in her thirties and remembers her story with pain in her heart. “In 2014, when I was still in journalism school. The guy I’m in a relationship with told me even though he took care of me and was very good to me, I didn’t miss him when he came back from his trip. in the place of their parents. This was a trigger for him and that’s why he made the decision to end the relationship because he was afraid that my feelings were stronger than his.
“The ad was at his house while I was taking him on a romantic picnic. I never expected a I cried all the tears in my body, hoping to change his mind. We have just been spending some wonderful days together and this decision is a real blow.”
Alma then gradually fell into a lethargic state for several months.
“Physically, I feel drained. I spent my days crying and I even had to be absent for a day at work because I was in so much pain. I felt completely oblivious to what was going on around me for months. Madly in love, I don’t have the strength to stop seeing him and hope every reunion we have that he will come back to me and realize his feelings.
“This bad relationship is crushing me in a deep mess and I lost a lot of weight during this time. I can’t stand a single moment of loneliness when I usually like to stay at home and start going out at night compulsively to forget and not think. He was only in my thoughts and the idea of him being gone seemed inconceivable to me.. I even started a letter and a book that I called “Sans lui” (laughter) to express my pain. Such passionate love can be very harmful if the feelings are not equal on each side..”
“After almost six years of not talking to him and refusing all contact, I saw him again during the pandemic and he apologized to me. While somewhat relieved that he finally acknowledged his mistakes, I realized when I looked at him that no matter how long it takes, he has a small part of my heart. I believe that when you love deeply, you never stop having feelings for that person. Obviously I have regretted the relationship for a long timebut the way I see it my relationship with men has been greatly affected by this separation over the years and I’m still afraid of being left behind to this day.”
Camille: “My stress caused peritonitis”
“In June 2009 I was 17 years old, I had just passed my baccalaureate, I dropped it after a difficult year; and recently I’m dating a guy I love a lot. We are happy, we spend all our time together, we said we love each other and we plan to be together for the beginning of the school year… So life is perfect.“
“Unexpectedly, on June 25, the same day Michael Jackson died, my boyfriend explained to me that he was no longer the same as me in the end and decided to end the relationship where, in my mind as a young woman in bloom, I bet everything and began to vainly persuade myself that we would spend our lives together.
“I have never felt so sad as I felt at that moment, so this emotional pain was as physical as my whole heart being torn.”
“I’ve never felt so sad like I did at that moment, so this emotional pain was physical like my whole heart was being torn apart. I just cried, all the days that followed. I didn’t eat anymore, because the knot in my stomach from the sadness of feeling alone, abandoned while I still loved him with all my being, took away my appetite.
“A good week and a half after this separation, I started having pain in my stomach and lower abdomen that kept me curled up in bed. I put it down to grief.”
“Except for one afternoon, the pain was such that I could not stop myself from screaming. My older brother, who still lives with us, immediately called SOS Médecin. The doctor examined me quickly and sent us directly to the emergency room. He suspected peritonitis and appendicitis.“
Once there, the young woman quickly underwent examinations in the operating room under general anesthesia. They revealed that Camille was actually suffering from peritonitis… But not because of appendicitis.
“He was angry due to a stress-formed ovarian cyst that burst and caused peritonitis. The stress was probably first in the baccalaureate that I just passed but above all it was heartache afterwards.
Flore: “I can’t eat anymore”
“With men, it goes from frustration to frustration. And it started as a teenager. I never believed in “Prince Charming”. Every time a story starts, I get used to the idea of having to make the most of it because it ends. I am a passionate person and I can go to great lengths for someone I love. Most of my relationships only bring me trouble: they are forbidden, or dangerous or complicated. But, one fine day, I met a person who is all simple.”
“I feel like we are on the same wavelength. There are no barriers between us. All it takes is one look, one sentence exchanged on a summer night for me to understand that there is a connection between us.“
“We don’t talk about tomorrow but for me, it’s become more of a relationship with no tomorrow.”
“I met him on vacation in Spain when I was only 23 years old. He is 10 years older than me, but he loves life, parties… We were made to be together. To begin with, light among us. Then he started inviting me to spend weekends at his house (he lives 700 km from my house). It happened once, then twice, then four, then five… We were just making the most of it. He took me to dinner at a restaurant, to museums, walking, swimming in the sea. We didn’t talk about tomorrow but for me, it has become more than a relationship without tomorrow.“
“One fine day, he told me he was coming to settle in Paris. If I don’t believe he’s coming for me, I still think that his moving to my city will give new impetus to the relationship.”
“In fact, it is quite the opposite. Coming soon, content related to the Covid-19 pandemic is introduced. Not once or twice, he escaped to the countryside without worrying about me. I found out a few weeks later that he was in quarantine with another woman..”
“I don’t know yet such a huge disappointment. It’s been a few weeks since I moved on. For the first few days, I had this feeling of nausea that never left me. I couldn’t eat or laugh anymore. My stomach hurts just thinking about him. I lost 2 kg in just one day when I opened my eyes.”
“He came back to me very quickly: He kept calling and texting me while he was busy with other things. He even arranged to spend his summer vacations in the same place as me, two years in a row. As for me, I just want him gone. He tried everything to find me. But, despite all his efforts, he was no longer attracted to me. I can be very attached to someone, but since they hurt me, I don’t want to. I forgave him, but he just doesn’t want me anymore. It is stronger than me. He insisted for almost 2 years: he tried almost everything to (re) deceive me. I never gave up. He could not stand it: he left France, telling himself that I would do everything to keep him. I don’t have a single finger. Now, he is far from my eyes and (very far) from my heart.”